I'm wondering what this is all about, why not just ignore whatever is bothering you so much, it may go away or allow "the stalker" to get as good a look at your life as they like.
So what if you're going through a difficult time, does that shame you, everyone has difficulties; even the "stalker." It just seems childish to me, if the stalker is acting like a child, why join them? I've gotten negative responses from some who've read my diary, regardless of their responses, it's my life and I live it as I choose; I don't ask their permission.
If you're having a hard time with how some view your life, if it's that important to you, change your life; don't make excuses for negative behavior. See what's wrong, honestly, begin changing the patterns that continue to put you behind the 8-ball; be firm. You are teaching your Daughter a lesson that will stay with her for life. You may as well call Crusty and tell her that the kids can't come, Kent can take his vacation with them, or you can continue going through this never ending cycle of tears and pain.
It's not always easy seeing life the way it is, as opposed to how we want to see it, the truth is the truth; Charlotte will be able to tell you that soon. CB